Break up is one of the most Common Event happening among Nigeria youths Today. Statistics shows that 90% of Nigeria Youths have gone through this process. Some people knows how to deal with it effectively, why some don’t even know how and where to start from
Breaking up with your partner sucks, but here’s how to start doing damage control.
Accept Your Faith
That moment when you realize you’ve been dumped by the love of your life feels like death. The key is to allow yourself to embrace the grief if you ever want to move past it. “Breaking up is very similar to a death because it is in fact the death of a relationship. For at least a couple of days, remember the good times and allow yourself to cry like mad. An exorcism if you will.”
2. Eliminate all contact.
Process your feelings and change your perspective at the end of a relationship.
Recommended: A period of no contact. No texts, emails or social media messages because you need time and distance to get emotional clarity. When you just break up with someone, your emotions are all over the place — you will likely miss them desperately and overlook all the reasons why the breakup happened in the first place just to have them there with you again.”
To process the breakup more quickly, be cruelly honest about why it occurred. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you’re compatible or that you have a future together. Chances are, this breakup happened for a good reason, and if it didn’t happen now, it would have happened down the line.”
4. Get back out there
Go out and have a good time even if you’re not ready. Take a trip to do something entirely new. Go to new places and meet new people. Have fun. Be happy that you’re alive and free. You will have good days and bad, but take each day and know it will get better as time goes by. Just don’t wind up in another undesirable relationship to replace the old. Give yourself the time you need to heal.”
5. Look toward the future and don’t look back
After an especially bad breakup, it may seem impossible to think that you will ever love again — trust me, I know. But just believes that this sense of loss can open the door to great possibility. When you find yourself at the end of a relationship, Heer urges you to ask yourself this compelling question: “What else is possible now that wasn’t possible when we were together?”
Heer points out that, even in the midst of heartbreak, the end may be just the beginning. He says, “Move forward to create your life, and if the relationship can be created again with that person you desire to be with, it will be created from a greater, deeper place and not the same old place that made you break up in the first place. In my point of view, a breakup, especially stemming from an unhealthy relationship or perhaps just one that wasn’t meant to be, always leads to something greater.”